Everyone always wants to put their best face forward when having conversations with someone, so they will be liked and accepted. If you really want to see how someone is, friend them on Facebook. Then you will really see how they are . . . or aren’t. Friend sitter or nanny on social media and your eyes will be opened.
This is a
almost required thing to do for the person you let care for your most precious gift, your children.
Friending the sitter
Why do I need to be friends with my sitter/nanny? Here is what I discovered when I became friends with a sitter of ours on Facebook. She liked to pose with guns like a gangster. She liked to use foul language, post lewd pictures of herself and make some immoral choices based on her posts. After discovering this, *SHOCKER Alert* I decided she was no longer someone I wanted influencing my kids. Ever. Again. Really.
- They may put a good face on in front of you, but their Facebook page shows them in a different light.
- What kind of pictures are they posting. Are they appropriate and something you would want your kids to see?
- What kind of language are they using. Is it language that is appropriate for your kids to hear?
- Would you feel comfortable discussing their posts and content with them? If not, this is not the sitter/nanny for you.
- Are they in a relationship? How do they talk to each other, is there too much PDA for your liking?
Being friends with their parents on Facebook or knowing them, you will sometimes hear things about how they are doing too. This also helps you decide if you want them around your kids.
Whatever you do, know there were be TMI involved once you friend them. There are things that can’t be unseen. And remember just like you are not perfect, either are they.